💫That's Good! The Story...

In our previous blog post we touched on this subject talking about when things don't go as you'd planned that is to say 'that's good' and then add the pivotal word 'because...'

The Shake Up...

I can clearly remember sitting on top of the hill in my car, cats in the back after evacuating my home having evacuated my home following the tsunami warning at 1am in the morning due to a 7.8 magnitude earthquake.

What the heck, I didn't ask for that in my life and I sat there thinking about what had just happened, that I'd purchased my townhouse in a small complex because I felt that would feel safe and a community because at the time I was living on my own. That night I realised that in a disaster, most people look after No. 1. I checked each unit, knocking on their doors to make sure everyone was ok and heading for the hills, everyone (I thought) had gone. So by the time I got to my parking spot, that hillside was covered in people walking about aimlessly not knowing what to do next.

The Decision...

It's in times of big upheaval like that, that we get really real with ourselves and what we want for our lives. I

realised I wasn't living the life I loved at the time. I wasn't doing the work I love (coaching) and whilst I loved my wee townhouse, I wasn't happy with:

• a big mortgage

• being in a job I didn't love

• living in an environment which didn't sit with my values

So I made the decision to sell and build a tiny house on wheels.

Other People's Business...

Once I started preparing my home for sale (after fixing the quake damage which thankfully was fairly minor in scheme of things), I started sharing my intention. I received well meant opinions of 'but that's your nest egg, you can't sell it', 'what will you do, where will you live', 'but you don't have anywhere to put a tiny house'. Of course all of that was true but what I realised was...

That was their 'business' (their fears if it were them) and not mine, that was their values around abundance and not mine.

💫What I Learned Using the Technique of That's Good...

Here's what the situation, the earthquake, the evacuation, other people's opinions etc taught me and what I said to myself. I used not just one, but three little phrases to sum up:

1. That's good because now I can finally live the life I've been dreaming of, no mortgage, doing what I love in a way that I love. If I'd listened to the well-meaning advice of others, then I'd still be working on a job that didn't fill my cup

2. That's good therefore it gives me the push I needed to shift my life to a whole new paradigm. Sometimes adversity brings the most amazing gifts in disguise

3. That's good and now I get to embark on a whole new adventure. I realised in that process that I do actually love change. The story I'd been believing (I don't love change) was simply a mask for the true belief which was 'I don't like the projection of change', so I changed the projection!

4. This technique goes hand in hand with the gem we talked about in last week's blog post being 'you are the meaning maker in your life'. So I could have made the earthquake mean all things bad, instead I chose to look on it as a gift

This story leads into the topic of this week's podcast 'become your own detective'. You see I had been avoiding the detective part and so it took a big shakeup to get me to SHIFT! Since then I have developed The BS Shift - which is a clever little method to SHIFT you from stuck-ness to unstuck, peeling back one layer at a time. If I'd had that then, maybe I'd have shifted sooner!

💫The BIG Question

How could that little phrase 'that's good because/therefore/and now' help you to move on with lightening speed from those pesky moments when things 'don't go as expected'? And retrospectively how could you have applied them in your life?

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Awaken to Your Self Podcast

SERIES 1: The Life Shift - Episode 2: Become Your Own Detective

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